Let's suppose that your observation is correct. How does this observation lead to a criticism of Lincoln? It wasn't Lincoln who fired on Fort Sumter. Had the South been ruled by reason and had not resorted to initiating an armed rebellion, your list of ills could have been avoided.
That's obvious.
I never put the blame on Lincoln. We've already identified most of the South's mistakes and wrong doings, but aggressive maneuvering and mistakes on both sides ultimately led to violent civil war. There is no doubt the South was wrong on slavery and that they initiated violence. However, slavery would ultimately fail regardless of all other factors, as it has in every other Western country. If the issue here is simply abolition, it would have happened with or without civil war. But there's also the matter of constitutionally legal secession, regardless of whether the reason for doing so is right or wrong. State membership in the Union was designed to be voluntary. Period. The North's prevention of constitutionally legal secession ultimately makes both sides complicit in the overall conflict. Slavery was going to end, regardless of the war. That leaves the issue of the war itself and its governmental and social consequences, which are nearly permanent, unlike slavery.
My original point is that criticism of Lincoln is Constitutional and social, and is separate from the issue of slavery. Somehow there is an embedded belief that criticizing Lincoln automatically puts you on the bad side of the issue of race. A sort of reductio ad Lincoln.