Honorius' Blog

If their perception of you has changed the way they act towards you, don't let your new perception of them change the way that you act as well. As long as you are still the child they know, they'll realize why they really love you.

::hugs:: I think that would be difficult for any parent, even if they do not object to homosexuality at all, it is still a shock to discover that your own child is homosexual, when they probably had dreams of seeing you get married, and raise a family. Of course you can still do these things, but not in the "traditional" way they were expecting. It will take them a while to get used to the idea, however I don't think that their disappointment is directed at you so much as it is directed at the dreams they may have had for you. Give them time.

 

I sincerely hope things get better for you.

Society is getting more open about this all all the time. I don't have any good advice on how to deal with the parents, unfortunately. But you should have a lot of breathing room if and when you run off to college.

 

You are fortunate to have accepted this about yourself at your young age. I can't say I struggled with my sexuality, but I denied parts of my self for a long time - and the longer you deny them, the more they bite back.

Make it your business to make your parents proud of you.

::hugs:: I think that would be difficult for any parent, even if they do not object to homosexuality at all, it is still a shock to discover that your own child is homosexual, when they probably had dreams of seeing you get married, and raise a family. Of course you can still do these things, but not in the "traditional" way they were expecting. It will take them a while to get used to the idea, however I don't think that their disappointment is directed at you so much as it is directed at the dreams they may have had for you. Give them time.

 

I sincerely hope things get better for you.

 

thanks heaps LW. i never actually thought of it that way.. the fact that they probably had dreams of me

having children etc. but hm.,..

 

thanks everyone for your support

 

btw soz for the slow reply lol i kinda forgot i gotta authorise commens

I've been away Honorius, but now must applaud your courage in being true to yourself. I just did a search on support groups for parents of homosexuals - and here's a URL - it might be something they could look at in an effort to come to terms with reality:- http://www.pflag.org/Get_Support.coming_out.0.html

I'm new to the forum and just read this. I have to say, it takes a lot of courage to do what you've done. I've seen it first-hand in my family. My parents were kind of stunned when my sister came out to them. It definitely changed the interactions between them; it wasn't easy for my parents to hear. I come from a Catholic family as well.

 

I think that for a long time my parents thought it was just a phase. But it is now almost ten years later and they have accepted who she is and there can be no doubt that they love her, and indeed never stopped loving her. I hope your parents are similar in this regard and based on the information here, it sounds to me like they are.

 

Best of luck to you and your family.

How are things going now?